Parenting is hard work. As the mom of four kids born in the span of five years, I can attest to this fact every. single. day.
Some days, it feels like I’m doing it alone, wandering aimlessly down this path, trying my best to keep my kids from smacking each other, hoping that they don’t grow up traumatized by how I mothered them.
I don’t like to feel that way. I don’t think anybody does.
It’s been said countless times, “It takes a village to raise a child.” I agree with that phrase wholeheartedly.
Unfortunately, though, it can feel like that community is non-existent, or so far away that you don’t how to reach it.
But you must. Because without outside help, as hard as we try to be good mothers, we will fall short. We need support. We need community. And as much as some of us don’t like to admit it (ahem, moi), we need help.
Fortunately, you don’t have to wave a white flag of surrender to get help. You can strengthen yourself as a mother and surround yourself with the support you need in a variety of ways:
Find Your Tribe
I think this is the most important way to feel supported as a parent. Building up meaningful relationships, online and off is the number one way that I’ve found relief when I was feeling overwhelmed.
I can’t stress enough how important it is to seek out friends, like-minded mothers and mentors who can offer support in your parenting journey. I’ve been helped by friends offering to watch my kids so we can go on a date, who bring me coffee so we can chat when they know I’m down and who have helped my husband and I as we struggle at different parenting stages.
I’m a researcher to the core, so when I need help, I try to soak up as much information as I can. While it can take a little while to wade through, I’ve found my favorite sources who offer intuitive, research-based advice that helps me approach my kiddos in a loving, more understanding way.
Sometimes, it helps to speak with another person whose passion it is to help others be better parents. It can be a good friend, a mom with older kids who can serve as a mentor or even a coach. We sought out coaching once when we were super frustrated with our oldest and it was SO helpful to get someone else’s perspective and wisdom. (I highly recommend Jenifer Trivelli if you’re looking for someone amazing.)
She gave me so much insight, information and practical ideas that I could put into practice to help me as I mother my children. She (and other coaches) typically offers group classes in addition to one-on-one coaching.
Need some extra help for the hard days?
I’ve had these sorts of days myself, and it’s precisely because I get it that I’m so excited to point you in the direction of this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms who have lived their fair share of #momfail days.
Stephanie and Beth are not only popular bloggers, but they’re also moms in the trenches. They’ve got 8 kids and almost 20 years of mothering experience between them.
They also understand and have the deepest compassion for moms who are working their tails off, but still hitting the pillow at night with a heavy heart and tear-stained face, because they feel like they’re failing at one of the most important things they’ll ever do in their lives.
And so they’ve put together an honest, candid and incredibly encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days”.
It won’t solve all your problems, and much as they wish they could, they can’t reach through the computer and fold that pile’o’laundry for you. But we can all benefit from a fresh perspective and encouragement from someone who really gets it.
Each video is short – around 10 minutes, and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes.
To watch the video series, just click this link and enter your name and email to sign up. You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that.