Today’s post comes from Nichole of Innocent Questions.
I remember reading an article once about a couple living simply – living simply with what you need, removing the excess and enjoying life. Living outside the box and living the life you create based on what matters to you.
I was intrigued.
I was searching for something … other than the conventional. At the time I lived in a 2000 square foot home, on half an acre in a semi-rural area. I lived there with my husband, son, our dog Scoop and our cat Kallie.
Living Someone Else’s Dream
Our home was lovely, good quality and all that my parents dreamed of.
Yes, you read that correctly. I believe that I unknowingly (at the time) took on the dream of home ownership from my parents. Easy to do I think because it’s so perpetuated by society, too.
Nothing is wrong with this as long as this is what you truly desire.
I am one of those people who likes to move – a change of scenery every few years invigorates me. I like the new places to see, different towns and new people. Routine does not really interest me. Being anonymous fits me just fine!
So, you can see why owning a home does not work for me.
I have vivid memories of my parents’ desire to own their own home – the discussions, the saving, the steps that were taken with great care to achieve this dream. It mattered to them. It meant something when you lived in your own home.
Unfortunately, for my parents this dream did not come to fruition. (The details are another story-for another time.) So, I understand how this was planted within me and why I pursued the goal.
I took it upon myself to fulfill the Home Ownership Dream.
I enjoyed my home, was happy there (for many years) and created wonderful memories. There came a time, though, when I became unhappy in our home. My mom passed away, my son was graduating high school and I wondered what I really wanted in life.
Time for Introspection
I began to explore my personal world, felt secure enough to excavate myself. I realized that the material possessions didn’t make me happy. Owning my home didn’t solidify me as successful – at least not my idea of success.
I was grateful for all that I had but it didn’t define me as a person.
Owning my home, living where I lived and living that life kept me stuck. It didn’t suit me personally and I now was aware of it and wanted to make a change. I discussed this with my husband and son. It took a few years but they came on board.
Thankfully, they were willing to make a change. We slowly started to downsize our possessions, explored different areas and housing options and connected with a realtor. Our house sold in a month and we were off, racing to secure housing that worked for us and accepted our pets.
We had the expectation that this would be a transition spot for us.
All worked out well. Our apartment, a little less than 1000 square feet fit the bill temporarily. It was an adjustment to live in closer quarters. At times it works well and at others it’s irritating.
We have reminisced about memories shared in our old home. We have missed our screened in porch, pool and the space at Christmas when family comes over. But my husband and I don’t miss the mortgage payment, responsibility and extra stuff that comes with home ownership!
This journey has opened the door for the journey that we now are undertaking.
We will be leaving in five days to relocate over two thousand miles away. Going through the process of downsizing, researching simple living and relinquishing home ownership has facilitated this cross country journey. I really believe you will surprise yourself when you live according to your desires.
Live according to what matters most to you and hold on for the ride!